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Armory, Self Defense, And EDC => Martial Arts, Unarmed Self Defense, Hand To Hand Combat, and Physical Fitness => Topic started by: Lee on October 18, 2011, 08:47:39 AM

Title: Two things to help you not be a victim.
Post by: Lee on October 18, 2011, 08:47:39 AM
There are two things I tell people on how NOT to be a victim. A person can be a victim of a crime both at home or on the street.  Here are two simple ways to lessen the chances of being a victim in either.

1) Have you ever been walking downtown and caught a glimpse of someone lurking in the ally?  The average person has a natural instinct not to make eye contact or acknowledge his presence, hoping to not challenge the person and thinking "if I ignore him, he will ignore me". Well, the reality is this. If this person in the shadows is indeed looking for a victim, he is thinking two things. Can I get the drop on my target and can I get away with what I am about to do.  By making eye contact and acknowledging his presence, you affectively tell him, "I am aware of you and I know what you look like".  You have come a long way in convincing him that he will not be able to get the drop on you and you will be able to identify him in a police lineup, reducing his chances of getting away with his crime. Obviously being aware of your surroundings is important. The guy hobbling along reading his iPhone is such a easy target, even a law abidding citizen such as myself considers knocking him on the head and upgrading my phone. But projecting to others that you are aware of your surroundings is even more important to avoid being a victim.

2) The second topic I want to address is coming home to an empty house, or so you hope.  Sometimes crimminals enter a home with the express desire to lay in wait for the homeowner to arrive.  But more often, a crimminal's main reason to enter your home is to steal something and would prefer never to see your face. However, should you arrrive while a burglary is in process, you could easily become an unintended victim.  The easiest way to avoid this is knowing whether or not someone is in your house right?  So how can you tell if someone is is a back room when you arrive?  My suggestion is leaving several small bills of cash in an obvious and highly visible place near your entry.  Why?  Because there is not a crimminal alive who will ignore cash on a table.  He will pocket it without a second thought.  When you arrive home, open your door and look at your table and see the money is gone, you know someone has been, AND MAY STILL BE, in your house.  Leave imediately and call police.  I carry a concealed weapon myself, and even I will leave rather than try to sweep my house. That is what I pay police for, let them take the risk of a gun battle =)
Title: Re: Two things to help you not be a victim.
Post by: Docwatmo on October 18, 2011, 09:10:16 AM
Excellent First post Lee,  Let me give you your first +1.

Drop by the Intro Thread (http://thesurvivalpodcast.com/forum/index.php?topic=89.msg343641;topicseen#new) and introduce yourself if you get the chance.  I bet you have a very interesting background with solid knowledge like that.

Doc
Title: Re: Two things to help you not be a victim.
Post by: LdMorgan on October 20, 2011, 10:35:06 PM
That was a really good post.

Kudos for the Fast Buck Trick! (+1)

About the victim part--body language says a lot to a would-be attacker.

If you turn straight toward someone and drop your chin down on your chest while maintaining eye contact and giving them a "mess with me!" grin, they'll usually back off.

When a man drops his chin like that, it's a signal that he's willing to fight to the death. Many people don't know that, but almost everyone responds to it.

You're covering your throat and showing your teeth because you intend to rip his throat out. Throats aren't a legal target in territorial and mating battles (for our species), but they are in fights to the death.
Title: Re: Two things to help you not be a victim.
Post by: Truik on October 21, 2011, 01:40:43 AM
I completely agree with the first recommendation of letting them know that you know who and where they are with eye contact.

The second suggestion is just an easier way of letting my wife get my money each time I turn around.

 ::)

Title: Re: Two things to help you not be a victim.
Post by: amanadoo on October 21, 2011, 07:22:12 AM
Thanks for this post. Long long ago before I had any ideas prepping or self defense, I chastised a friend as we were walking down a city street: "You are GOING to get raped."

She bristled at the unnecessary harshness of my tone and word choice, but I continued, "Stand up straight, get your hands out of your pockets, look like you know where you're going and looking people in the eye!"

It seemed like common sense to me. To look at people like ~ Hey man! I see you. I can describe you later if I need to.~ I remember the episode with my friend so vividly because she brings it up all the time.

The other thing I used to do back then was pretend to talk on my cell phone. If I passed someone unsavory looking (or especially a group), I would say on the phone that I was going somewhere that I was not. Somewhere that would require me to pass through an alley, were I actually going. And then I'd say "I'm passing XYZ right now, so I should be there in [however many] minutes."  I know it sounds kind of silly, but it helped me feel a little safer...a little bit more like I was DOING something in regards to my own safety.
Title: Re: Two things to help you not be a victim.
Post by: MCopes on October 21, 2011, 07:54:10 AM
Thanks for an excellent post.  I think point #2 is especially clever -- plan to start implementing that right away.

Title: Re: Two things to help you not be a victim.
Post by: reefmarker on October 21, 2011, 02:40:43 PM
Love #2 +1 from me.

#1 also works for car salesmen!  If you stick your hand out and say your name loud and proud, they will first off forget what you said, and second off be too ashamed to ask you your name later when you already gave it to them.  Makes the whole experience a little better.