Pardon my digression, but I recently had a conservation with a trans-man in my office. "He" was explaining how it can be damaging to raise children with gender roles. It was a civil discussion, but at the end I saw the paradox. If gender is a construct, why is it so important for you to identify as a Male and have coworkers treat you the same?
I may not live to find the answer...
I'm totally fine with men doing feminine things and vice versa. "Fine" in that it's not my business. I feel better knowing my wife can change a tire, unload a gun and file our taxes. Somehow I'm still in charge of dealing with spiders in the house and investigating strange noises st night.